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Six Tips to Relieve Work Related Stress

Here a few tips on how you can relieve the same after coming home from a stressed filled day at the office, so that you can create an atmosphere and mental state more conducive to lovemaking for both you and your partner.

1. Start off an intimate conversation: The most important thing to relieve your office tensions is to deviate from them. Try and focus more on complimenting your partner and start talking with seductive words, rather than the daily routine life problems. Steer the conversation towards erotica, about sex positions, foreplay techniques, your fantasies etc, so that you can forget the bad times spent at work and rather enjoy these precious moments with your partner.

2. Watch a romantic movie together: There can’t be a better option to divert your mind than to watch something romantic and arousing. A romantic movie with some sexually charged scenes can surely let you forget all office tensions and seek some sexual pleasure with your partner.

3. Enjoy an exotic dinner: You would hardly get time to help your wife in the kitchen, so on a day when job stress is bothering you much, try doing something which you might not be too good at. Cooking scrumptious dishes using best of ingredients can let you rejuvenate your senses and as you enjoy a romantic candle lit dinner, take a chance to get intimate with your lover.

4. Indulge in a soothing massage: Office tensions not only give you mental stress but also leave your body exhausted and tired. Best way to calm your mind and soul is to give each other a sensuous body massage using the best of aromatic oils. As you massage and touch each other’s body, passion will start building and as you approach towards the end, the heat will be enough to keep you going for some action in bed.

5. Share some happy moments: It’s true that office tensions should be left behind at the place of work only but at times, sharing them overtly with your partner can help you feel better and unwind your mind. So make a point to discuss everything with your partner expecting that they will stand by you to comfort you in tough times. Doing this will help you both bond strongly and at the same time, sharing your office burden with someone else, will make you feel relaxed and you can perform well in bed as well.

6. Deck up your bedroom settings: The best way to leave behind or conquer your workplace tensions is to come out of that environment. Make sure that when you reach home, there is nothing around, which remind you of your office settings. Especially when you head towards bedroom for some sexual intimacy, the atmosphere should be such that you feel in an altogether new place. This would not only help you forget the tensed moments but would push you closer to your partner.

Having said it all, it is very crucial that you show faith in your partner and share your professional problems with them (without constantly whining about them), and look for their support. If in-spite this, the office tensions continue to give you sleepless nights, do not let your spouse face the brunt of your frustration and anger; rather seek an expert’s advice to come out of it.

Six Things You Need to Know About Sex during and After Pregnancy

Here are the most significant questions asked by couples who are pregnant.

1. First and foremost, is sex for pregnant women safe?

In general, it is quite safe to have sex during normal or low risk pregnancy. For those women who are at a hazard of preterm labor or face complications like placenta previa during their pregnancy, sex should be avoided. You should check with your gynecologist when in doubt.

2.  What is the safe period for sex for pregnant women?

It is safe to have sex till the last trimester as long as your pregnancy has been ordinary. Don’t have sex if your water breaks or if you are carrying multiples.

3. What precautions should be taken by pregnant women and their partners while indulging in sexual activities during pregnancy?

• Try avoiding sex in the first trimester if the pregnant woman suffers from fatigue, sickness or vomiting. The second trimester is the best time to have sex during pregnancy as the woman has more than likely overcome the trials and tribulations of the first trimester and will enjoy sex.
•  Avoid oral or genital sex during pregnancy.
•  Avoid with lubricating creams and gels as they may irritate the skin and cause allergic reactions.
•  Try different sexual positions to make sex as comfortable as possible for the pregnant woman. This is especially significant in the latter part of the pregnancy because the woman may feel physically cumbersome and uncomfortable during this time.

4. Is there a change in libido for women after pregnancy?

A woman’s body goes through a lot of transforms during and after pregnancy and this along with other things like post partum depression, issues with her body image may cause her to have loss of sexual desire (Libido).

Loss of sleep, exhaustion and breast-feeding the baby can also cause a dip in the libido.

5. Are there any exercises or diet changes that can be made to increase libido after pregnancy?

Start exercising the moment you feel ready. Exercising frequently after childbirth will make you feel energized, assist you deal with strain and generally improve your mood and all these things will also help you regain your libido.

Improving your diet of route will help you rapid start the process.

Doing exercises to reinforce your pelvic and abdominal muscles will go a long way to increase your libido and help you enjoy sex more.

You can attempt doing the following exercises:

•  Lie on your back on the floor with your knees bent. Flatten your rear against the floor by contraction your abdominal muscles and bending your pelvis up slightly. Hold for up to 10 seconds. Repeat five times and work up to 10 to 20 repetitions.
•  Do Kegel exercises, which are quite simple to do; it involves contracting and relaxing muscles of the pelvic floor. (You can try simulating perform of holding back your urine during midstream).

As far as dieting is concerned, you need a nutritious intake for yourself and your baby (when breast feeding). Try to eat entire grains, fruits and veggies (raw or steamed) and high protein foods such as lean meats, eggs or soy food. Avoid weight loss diets.

A amalgamation of exercise and a healthy diet will not only better your overall health but will also help you feel better about yourself and which in turn will definitely improve your libido.

6.  What are the safest sex positions for pregnant women?

The important fixation to realize, when trying out different positions to have sex during pregnancy is that the woman should feel comfortable with it and avoid putting weight on the uterus and the abdomen area.

Here are a couple of position you can try:

•  Spooning Sex Position:  This location puts no pressure on the abdomen; Lye down side by side (much like two spoons together) and get your partner to position behind you at various angles for penetration till he finds one that is comfortable for him.
•  On Top: Try this position by sitting on top of your partner while he is lying on his back. This position puts you in manage of the pace of the movement.

In any case, always clear all your doubts about having sex during and after pregnancy with your doctor. And remember if in hesitation or at the initial sign of discomfort, discontinue and desist from sex until you consult with your doctor and follow his /her recommendations.

6 Blunders That Men Make in Bed

Men in India are generally more aggressive and active in bed when compared to their female counterparts. When they show this aggression in bed, there are several goof-ups they can make, which their female partner may not like much. These are the mistakes that men make while performing the act of sex, or even during arousal. These mistakes can be related to their sexual performance, behavior in bed, attitude towards female partner, expectations from sex and so on. Here are a few of these faux pas:

1.    Don’t neglect foreplay: Men usually indulge in arousal acts for a little time and expect a fully aroused partner in bed. Your woman might be seeking more of it. Don’t behave as if you are just interested in intercourse. Stimulate your partner properly, so that she feels more excited and is comfortable in bed when the time comes to go all the way.

2.    Don’t leave her halfway: Men often reach their climax much faster and much before their female partner has had an orgasm. Be thoughtful of your partners needs, and try different things like oral sex to satisfy her.

3.    Don’t treat her like a porn star: It’s not bad to take hints from porn movies and sex magazines to add fun to your sex life. But if you start treating your partner like a porn star and expect her to do exactly the same stuff that you saw on screen or read about, it can make things go terribly wrong.

4.    Don’t abuse her verbally: Some men have the tendency to get verbally abusive, rude and arrogant when they do not get the desired pleasure in bed or when the woman is not participating with much interest. This is certainly not going to be good for your sex life and overall relationship. This not only lowers the respect they have for you but they can also develop a feeling of resentment towards your abusive behavior, which definitely shows up during intimacy.

5.   Don’t go wild: Some men love trying out wild and bold moves in bed, thinking that these will give more pleasure to them and their partner. But when they turn into a wild animal and can’t control their wild gestures, the passion can get killed and it becomes a big bedroom blunder.

6.   Don’t be over demanding: Men are more experimental and daring when it comes to performing sex, and they often expect their female partner to act in the same way and fully participate in whatever “new” he wants to do in bed. But being over demanding can sometimes negate the sexual pleasure for her, and can make her to withdraw within herself, and she may become reluctant to become intimate with you.

It’s good to experiment in bed but be mindful of your partner’s needs and feelings. Talking beforehand about the different things you want to try in bed, to make sure that your partner is comfortable with them, is always a good idea. Be gentle and understanding, it will go a long way in helping you spice up your sex life and save you from making mistakes that can throw a spanner in your works.

Five Tips for Sexual Intimacy during Pregnancy

Sexual intercourse during pregnancy is amazing that can only be enjoyed if both the partners talk and communicate openly and candidly with each other.

The hopeful mother goes through a lot of physical and hormonal changes in her body and her needs and the safety of her and the baby should be the main and the only priority; this means that her partner has to adjust and understand accordingly.

A lot of folks have doubts if it’s safe to have sex during pregnancy and I have written a post on this subject, which you can read here.

After you have gotten used to the new physical and psychological reality of your female partner, here are few tips on sexual intercourse during pregnancy:

1.         As mentioned above talking and accepting the physical and hormonal changes in the expectant mother goes a long way in eliminating frustrations for both partners, which is necessary if they are to enjoy sexual intimacy.

2.         Try avoiding sex in the first trimester if the pregnant woman suffers from fatigue, sickness or vomiting. The second trimester is the best time to have sex during pregnancy as the woman has more than likely overcome the trials and tribulations of the first trimester and will enjoy sex.

3.         Avoid rear entry intercourse and or vaginal sexual contact during pregnancy as it can cause venous air embolism which can be fatal for the woman if left untreated.

4.         Try different sexual positions to make sex as comfortable as possible for the pregnant woman. This is especially significant in the latter part of the pregnancy because the woman may feel physically cumbersome and uncomfortable during this time.

5.         Try other methods of intimacy beside sexual intercourse if the pregnant woman is placed on bed rest by her doctor or just does not feel up to the task. Hugging, kissing, giving light massages, caressing each other etc are good alternatives to sex, which also make both partners feel wanted and gets them closer not only physically but also emotionally.

Sexual intercourse during pregnancy is amazing to be enjoyed and not to be shied away from.  It needs understanding from both partners, especially the man. Do not indulge in it if your doctor has forbidden it for any type of medical reasons. In any case, if in doubt always consult your doctor for guidance.

5 Things That Can Make You Lose Your Sex Drive

Loss of libido or sex drive is extremely general in both men and women of all ages, from the young to the old. Disinterest in sex can cause a lot of strain in a relationship, not only in their bedroom but also in other aspects of their relationship. So it’s critical to be able to recognize what is causing this, and how to get it treated so that you can get your sex life back on track.

There can many causes for loss of libido; here are the 5 most common ones:

1. Medications: Some antidepressants and blood pressure medications can have the unwanted side effect of lowering your sex drive. If you have been prescribed any such medication, and have started to notice a drop in your sex drive, then I would suggest that you consult your doctor to find out if it’s possible to replace that particular medication with one which does not affect your sex drive.

2. Erectile Dysfunction: ED is a very common problem in men and a lot of times it’s just temporary, but worrying and stressing about it can lead you to experience lower sex drive, accentuating the problem. If you are suffering from erectile dysfunction or impotence, then it’s a good idea to consult with a qualified sexologist who can treat both the physical and psychological aspects of ED.

3. Depression: This is a tricky one because suffering from depression can cause a drop in your sex drive and this drop can further increase your depression. So it’s important that you treat this condition as soon as possible through therapy and counseling. If you are taking antidepressants then check for its potential side effects as mentioned in cause No.1.

4. Menopause: The hormonal changes that occur in a women’s body during menopause can lead to a loss of libido. Consult your doctor for treatments for this symptom, which is quite common during menopause.

5. Self Image: It is important to feel good about yourself because a negative self image will almost always cause you to have a lower sex drive. Low self esteem can be caused by many factors including obesity, peer pressure, financial difficulties etc. It is important to rectify these by keeping yourself physically fit and not worrying too much about what others think of you etc.

These are just 5 of many factors that can cause loss of sex drive, others factors include alcohol, stress, lack of sleep etc. What is important is for you to know that this is a very common occurrence and which can be rectified by discipline and professional help. So consult a doctor or a sexologist to get the intimacy in your relationship back to where it belongs.

Five Relationship Issues That Can Cause Depression

Depression is basically a disturbed state of mind that directly affects your thoughts, behavior and well being. It can be related to relationships problems that would include grief, guilt, restlessness, aloneness or isolation. When you suffer depressed, you tend to separate yourself from the world around and start thinking about the reason behind the turmoil in your relationship.

This continuous depression affects your ability to ponder and think, and hence you cannot perform properly and can’t take decisions wisely. As a outcome of this, you even fail to locate solutions to your relationship problems and you are more likely to say positive things, which you may not mean and these can escort to further aggravation.

Hence, it’s very important to know what’s going wrong in your relationship and why you are facing tough times with your partner. Some of the main reasons are listed below:

1. If your partner’s behavior towards you is not as preferred, you tend to think a lot and remain depressed. There are times when your partner behaves poorly with you, talks impolitely, and disrespects your approach and emotions and it gets tough to tolerate behavior.

2. At times when you are feeling low, you want emotional and bodily support from your partner and if at that tip of time, they are not with you; there are odds that you feel dejected and disowned. In this case, your partner fails to appreciate and respect your needs and hence you get depressing thoughts.

3. Sexual dissatisfaction between partners is another key factor that can contribute to depression. When you are powerless to satisfy your partner sexually or you are not getting any kind of sexual satisfaction from them, this state forces you to go into a condition of depression and feel guilty within your heart. Try to recognize your sexual problems and get them treated by a qualified medical professional.

4. In a relationship, you often seek to spend quality time with your partner, but if they tend to disregard your attendance and appear reluctant to enjoy any romantic moments in your company, you think like being used and as a result take a lot of tension that leads to sadness.

5. In an attempt to enjoy a blissful relationship, you try by any and all means to remain your partner joyful. But there are times when the other partner simply pays no attention to your gestures and rather insults your special feelings towards them. In such a condition, you have no other selection but to feel bad and lonesome and become a victim of depression.

So as you can see the type of relationship that you have with your partner is crucial for your mental health. It is very vital to not keep your emotions and dissatisfaction about the way your partner treats you pent up inside of you. Communicate obviously with him/her and let them know how you feel. You can even try couple’s treatment to sort out the problems and if in spite of this things don’t work out, and then maybe it’s time for you to move on and save yourself unnecessary misery.